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(solution to a relationship problem by anonymous) 

If your girlfriend is not letting you look at your cell-phone or: 
- Sharing the password of her mail accounts. 
- Sharing the password of her social networking sites. 
- Sharing the password or key to anything that is a door to personal stuff. 

There are following conclusions or possibility that might be in such a case: 

1) Your relationship is at no stage. 
If you think you are in love with this this, or this one's special, then forget it, because she is not serious for you yet. She might be waiting for some chapters to be over, which probably have a trail in those passwords. A girl lives a very complicated life. Reasons: 
- Because women generally don't have the power to end things for good. 
- But they like to portray like they have this habit, and thus keep many secrets. 
- They are emotionally involved and entangled into many self-woven relationships at the same time. 
- They have the tendency and a very good belief that things are going to end by themselves. For example:- if they have an ex-boyfriend you don't like, she won't ever tell him to completely get out of her life, but would always assure you that he is out of her life. 
This generally happens with newly formed relationships, when the girl has much of baggage from the previous relationship, and issues that she hasn't solved yet. 

2) You have no clue - and also she doesn't want you to know - about her secrets. 
It might be messages in her Inbox that she doesn't want to delete and neither wants to share them with you. It might be pictures of some intimate kind, or of someone you wouldn't like to see, or perhaps you'd question about. There might be still mailing between them, sorting things out. And also, there might be some new extremely surprising thing that none of us can expect. 
The only thing assured is that it won't be nothing - like she'd say. Because if it is nothing, why would she risk her new relationship with such a small thing? Always mind: She'd put on the suspecting sort by keeping questions such as - why can't you trust my word when I say there is nothing Or, I don't like exchanging passwords, it's as simple as that. But always remember: She has no point except for that, so she is not actually making any sense but landing to the last resort - which is targeting you.

3) Don't trust this girl, no matter what.If she denies to share her phone or passwords, which shouldn't be an issue, don't trust the girl then. I am not saying that she might by lying, but there is 95 % of chance that she is. And her secrets could be anything. You could only be her insurance, or someone she was using to make her ex-boyfriend jealous, or someone who was a time-pass - anything basically. If she cannot be honest in the beginning of the relationship then there are no chances that you are going to happy with this woman in the coming time, so it's better to be on the safe side than to realize it late. 



38 comments:

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and half, she used to tell me at the start about how if there's nothink to hide on your phone then there's no problems with her looking, I accepted that. Now we have been going through a lot and for no reason she tells me she just wants to be on her own now. And she has all her friends back. We are back together but with big change. She aint letting me see her phone or knowing her password to the phone,when she's the one that said at the start about not worrying if I have nothink to hide, and now she says I'm going to have to deal with the fact of me not seeing her phone, or just leaving her. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

same is ther case with my gf.. exactly what the article said.. i wont trust her now

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

My situation is exactly the same as mentioned in the artice. Please let me know that now should I force her to tell the passwords or should I keep things as they are.. or should I break up with her.. how can I get the information out from her? What should I do? I really love her and dont wanna loose her.. Please guide.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

i need help i think my gf might have left me and not told me about it and still talking to me like were together but :( we havent scene each other in over 3 months we talked through face book evrey day back and forth thousands of messages now its slowed down so much and shes not taking her phone with her to text.. :( she wont let me se her face book this is breaking my heart i need her so bad what should i do? email awnsers at ohmudkipz@rocketmail.com

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

my gf thinks its ok to c my fone but yet when i try to look threw hers she gets mad and starts telling me to gie it back...is she cheating or is she just a bitch

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Leave the Bitch!

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Leave them holes no need for those girls.
I never let any girl get eaven close to my phone

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

@Anonymous

and you you should seriously consider just dumping her totaly

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Wow. You guys are crazy! Let your ladies have some privacy.

"How can I get the information out from her?"
Maybe it's not information you should even be privvy to? Not because it's bad, but maybe she is hiding in her phone secrets which aren't even hers. And even if she has secret... welcome to human relationships. We all have secrets, and it's not necessarily a bad thing.

A tactic of abusive men is to demand passwords and not allow partners any privacy or space. My phone is passworded too, and my boyfriend doesn't have my password. I don't want him to read my texts with my girlfriends. They tell me personal things in confidence; I do not betray that confidence by sharing them with anyone else (my current spoouse included). It's called privacy, and it's not a bad thing. Grow up, kids.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Maybe she doesn't want you to see her bitching to her girlfriends about the total abusive, invasive, demanding psycho she's dating who won't get off her back about her phone?

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

I think if someone has been with another for some time then he/she can tell them their friends secrets. If you love someone surely you should have confidence in them and be able to trust them with other peoples secrets. The only problem i've had recently is that my girlfriend changed her facebook password after i went on there and left a message to myself. I didn't check her inbox because, like you said, it's her business, but she freaked out and changed the password and uses the excuse of its her personal business. Although we used to go on eachothers facebook and Frape eachother all the time and there was never a problem.
I would like honest opinions on what I am to make of this, is there a possibility she could be talking to another guy privately and doesn't want me to find out? Or am I being stupid?

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

I really wouldn't care if my gf wanted to look through my phone, but she chooses not to.

I really am not saying you shouldn't give them their privacy, but the way they react to you asking them could give you an idea of why.

PS: She could be talking about you to her friends, why the hell would she want you to see that

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

mine hides her phone,also,very protective of it,have caught her in very suspect behavior at time,but fellas remember we are men,we generally keep a back up plan,or a rainy day fund you know what i mean?so get you a prepaid phone and tell no one of but your lovely honies!!

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

we are human,and on the most part men the only woman you will be able to trust is your mother,i look back on my life in dating and a marriage all of my women have been deceitful in one form or another,it makes my game tighter though,it has hardened me though,but what i have done now i have separate phone for just women that i will nail on a regular basis,and my regular phone i can keep in plain sight with pride! we are men we are the hunters,and the world is ours remember that fellas,for most of our lives,and most of us will have our cake and eat it to!!!!

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

to feb 24,2012,the possibility is very high,it is another guy and you are not stupid,alot of women don't appreciate a good man,while out on valentine's festivities my lady got a text from another man and tryed to hide,i just shut down the rest of the evening,and she got angry and upset with me,because of how i felt and went home,i also discovered a phone she has with just guys names in them,and one is her so called best friend who is married,who she happened to call at 1130 at night,another instance she said she was going to one location but,something was going on at her place,her car was in the drive way,but i will personally probaly never trust a woman again,but i have separate phone for just women,i suggest you get a thick skin and drop her or adapt to your surroundings,and tighten up your game,and never be blinded by a woman,they can be the same as us,so act like everything is fine and do you my friend,and never give her any suspicions!!!

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Ok... I need an opinion about this, My GF and i been through lot, but things have change a little... Ive only been with her 3 months now but since she got a new phone shes been texting with this so calle "Best Friend" and she wont let me see there texts and nothing and a few days ago i saw in her inbox talking to one of her friends saying: "Do you know who Jorge is" (Her Best Friend -.-) Friend: "Yeah by FB, why? GF: "I got a problem" Friend: "What happen?" GF: Im with my BF (me) and Jorge at the same time" and ive been dying to see the rest but she change her password and eont give it to me and she can see my phone and my FB and EVERYTHING but now a cant do that to her :/ i need an opinion ASAP please !! And thank you and also sorry for the testament i left xD

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

And btw: I talked to her that i saw that message and she said that she said that just to make an excuse that Jorge is in loved with her friend, but a really dont know and i dont know what to do i loce her a lot, she change my life completely and i really dont want to lose her by any means necesary :(

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

My boyfriend knows my password to my cell but i never give him a chance to look at my cell. If he wanted too he has plenty of opportunity.
He is now assuming im
Not done with my ex and convinced im texting him!!
Ive assured him im not texting my ex unless its about our son.
My boyfriend and i went through my cancer together, aborting twins and its been a rollercoaster. He says he doesnt trust me and is jealous of my ex. I have gotten back with my ex before within the 9 years weve been split but definately not in the last yearish since ive been with my boyfriend.
We are almost 40 years old. What do i do?? Do i not deserve trust? Ive never broken it!

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

@Anonymousya she was sending naked pics to boyfriend i guess she didn't deserve my trust. you know what they say, deny deny deny. until proof is shown.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

She reduced my trust to cinders 1 month into our relationship, as I found out that 2 days before I asked her out, she'd tried sleeping with her ex boyfriend. We got on with it, because I loved her.

A year later, she said 'I'm sorry of I act off today, it's been a year and I feel really terrible about it'. A few days after, she got defensive with her phone. I managed to sneak it, found a username and password that I'd never seen before and google searched it. It was an anonymous question asking website. So I logged in, found out she's been asking questions to the same guy, the exact night she had tried sleeping with him, but a year later. Asking him if he still loved her, what his favourite song was, and he caught on to it being her.

I confronted her. The same excuse 'you shouldn't have even gone on my phone' was used once again, and instead of her breaking down in tears, she's demanded access to talk to him as I had denied it the year before (and any fucking idiots out there thinking 'what a cunt', I think I have my reasons). So incredibly reluctantly, I let her talk to him.

She refused to let me see any texts, sayin I was paranoid (I know right, I have my reasons). Anyway I
Told her it was too much and I couldn't let her do it anymore. She stopped, which was gooUd.

TwO weeks later, she got defensive of her phone again. Went on it. Found out she was talking to another ex about the dirty messages they used to send on MySpace. I had confronted her before that because her shed downloaded MySpace and no one uses it anymore.

A couple of days after, we found out she was pregnant. I was over the moon. I never worried about him being mine. Hes 5 months now and looks like I did when I was a baby, so I'm happy.


I never did anything to deserve how she treated me to begin with. I would skive school, mooch lifts of my friends and lie to my parents to see her for 5 minutes. I surprised her my leaving my friends at my prom to go and surprise her at hers on the very same night.


And now, she is defensive again. So what do I do? Take her phone and lock myself in the bathroom and go through it? No. We live together now, and I work full time to provide for her and my son. But I know that she's cheating on me, or doing something being my back to do with him.

Maybe I just don't want to find out. I want to be with my son every day, and I won't be able to do tht if we separate. He'll be with her.

So, some people have reasons to be paranoid. I can't believe all of the people on here saying 'you have to ignore it and let her have her space' because it is not what should happen. I didn't let it happen, and again, and again and now it's happening once more. Why should you be walked over? You shouldn't be.


Sorry for the essay. Having a bad night.

bbbb said...Best Blogger Tips

Guys, at the end of the day we going to be the winners. U probably in regret to see things happen that way,.after all the money, time u spend with that bitch. They think, we don't know their game, we been knew what's going on. What's so freaking serious on your phone or your Facebook and you can't share it with your so called other half. Fuck those bitches


Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Sometimes us "men" get a soft spot for a woman who strokes are pride, but the second she quits putting you first, her true colors have shown. Forget her and move on. Work on yourself become successful and get as much money as possible. It is my experience that when you have a lot of money, and doing all the stuff that makes you happy, is when the women really start to creep in, and suddenly you quit on yourself after several months and then the woman grows tired of it, because "you're not the same". Look leave the girl and do what makes you truly happy!! You wont regret it, in fact you can laugh at the next sucker she gets or feel sorry for him, either way, you are happy again, and are probably with a hotter woman.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

You don't need to be looking through her phone. If she's hiding something then let her dig her own grave it will catch up to her.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

So a man who's girlfriend is cheating on him is an abusive man? Little bit passive aggressive aren't we? I think the words 'current spouse' reveal a whole lot of other reasons why you might not share your secrets with him. There should be no secrets in a relationship. Only trust and understanding.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

My gf is completely freaked that i would want to exchange passwords. I saw some questionable shit on her phone one night and she swore it is just a good friend who texted her "thinkin about you" at 730 in the morn? Also has a pic of someones junk (xxx) on there from before we met. Though she swears she doesnt send sexy pics? She is so secretive about some things that it makes me paranoid. But if i bring anything up im the bad guy. Agreeably i shouldnt have been looking at her phone, but so defensive that i have to wonder. That article didnt help my trust either.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

My gf always hides her phone from me, when she's using facebook and texting people, and she's extremly close to some guy that she met a few days ago, closer than any normal person would be.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

I have never, and will never give out any passwords for anything. I also would never ask for a password to anything. I have nothing to hide, but i'll be damned if i ever give out one of my passwords to anyone. It is not that i dont trust them to look at my stuff, but if they cant trust me without looking at everything i do, then the relationship is already over, time to move on.

Mo said...Best Blogger Tips

100 dat was funny n real

Mo said...Best Blogger Tips

Man uma be honest wit u bro dats bs.. Like he said wen u hav a bad feeling bout something nine times outta ten its true.. Dnt play da dumbass cause believe me if it were some guys she wouldnt dare play those type of games.. We as Men jus have to Manup n put our foots down.. Um pretty sure u a goodman to her n IF she Loved u so much she would cut dat shit out n wouldnt want u ta feel that way

Mo said...Best Blogger Tips

Smh do i even need to say anything.. Comeon guys its not Rocket Science if i were u i would tell her she can have em.. N if u care more about. Being dis Pricks freind then Making me the man u CLAIM u love happy n content u got a problem n i dnt need u

Mo said...Best Blogger Tips

Like the Goodbook says u leave your Mother n Father to be One One Gotdamnit not divided wit 2 n 3 passwords n all these secrets n shit.. Evrythang u do should be to make sure your partna is Cool especialy if u say u love them.. BottomLine so mixme witall dat othashit!! If u do this a couple times watch how the other partner slacks off.. Always talking these trust issues u have to gain their trust first. N if u really care for someone its nothing u wouldnt do for them especialky a dumbass password..

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

I 100% agree with u

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

We all know in the beginning, you seem you can be yourself. Just relax and trust and do what we men do to provide for our families. To take care of ourselves, workout, eat healthy. Be a good parent, make sure you do a good job of making love to your woman. But at the end of the day, if your best isnt good enough to fulfill a woman. Then its her loss. Let her try to fnd a man like us. We are strong, and one day, not tomorrow but one day, she will realize that maybe you were the one, and she messed it up. Goodnight gentlemen

Sharaff Ali said...Best Blogger Tips

@Anonymous

Sharaff Ali said...Best Blogger Tips

@Anonymous

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

@Anonymous
its like if you get raped you come sobbing to your boyfriend/fiance/husband,
but if you intentionally have sex then it's privacy

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@Anonymousa a abusive man demands passwords?? you tell your friends things in confidence that you hold secretive from your so called significant other?? grow up kids?? I'm 40 years old and if you think that nothing is wrong with holding things back or lying to your man then your f***ing crazy. there should be no secrets in a relationship. It sounds like you need to grow up

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