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Well, it is an herculean task to win a fight with a girl, whether it's on the phone, or sitting against each other in a room, or sitting at your coffee table, or at your bar - wherever it is. Now why is it so tough? Here is why: 
1- You care about her. 
2- She is not some guy whose nose you can break or arm you can twist. 
3- She is not some guy who you can tell how big an idiot he is being or how illogical his points are. 

4- You have to control your emotions as well as your mind at the same time. 
5- If she goes way out of line, you can't call her names. 
6- If she is making up facts, you can't just stop her or do 2 or 3.  


So how do you win a fight? Here is how:


1) In a fight, ALWAYS LET HER COMPLETE. 
Just close your mouth, and listen as closely as you can. Let her complete the entire thing, so you can carefully choose your points, and understand what she actually wants to say separating it from her blahblah (talks which show how disappointed she is/ how much embarrassed she was/ how much angry she is). When you would do that, you'll realize that she took 15 minutes to complete what could have just taken one sentence to be said. 


2) Don't ever clash. 
Break-ups happen only when two parties clash, but they would never happen, if only she is angry, and you are not. Guys think they cannot reason with girls, but that is absolutely wrong. You just do it in the wrong timing. Don't clash just immediately contradicting her statement because she went out of line, or what she said was not at all true. Control yourself. Let her finish, and keep nodding as if you are attentively listening to whatever she is saying - which also you are. 


3) Once she is over, take the points down. 
Once she is over complaining or whining. Your sentence should start with: So what you meant to say is, you have the following problems, (and one by one, in points, list down all the problems from her words). When you will do that, she'd be confused. The basic reasons behind this:
- She had never actually formed her points, before she came spilling out of her mouth. 
- She never expected this, all she expected was winning and you shamefully apologizing. 


4) Once she is confused, gradually put her down. 
This would give you enough confidence, time and points to easily put her down in front of you and show how idiotic her whining was. The conclusion would be that out of 100 %, only 20 % of what she complained about was true and plausible. You can show this to her and lecture her on how she should behave the next time she has any problem. Tell her that she needs to first think from your point of view. 


Now, this is a great way of showing how you can control things, and gradually such a habit can make you win every fight. You win fights not because you are smart, but because you kept your calm and didn't become all chaotic. Talking about manners and proper way of communication is a sign of dignity and respect.  



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12 comments:

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

what if a girl does know what she is saying but doesn't know that she is wrong?

How to woo Girls said...Best Blogger Tips

The fourth point is about that only.

shubham said...Best Blogger Tips

what if she keeps asking me to shut up...be it after 15 min or even an hour...

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

what if a girl slaps me???

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

If someone slaps you, punch her in the throat. This has two advantages: 1) she will stop talking crap and 2) you win!

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

@Anonymous go lock up your self in a toilet and start crying like a little girl and make her feel sorry

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Didn't porposed the best friend and now she is attached with next guy. . .?

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Whenever my girl fails at some point of time...she brings the conversation to "its over now" what should i do? but she is truly awesome.

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

@Anonymous

If she says things like that, she is not truly awesome, rather moronic..

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

My girl broke up with me because she thinks i have no future and she is not happy with me, what to do?

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

.....A) get a job B) cuss her out and beat her up C) tell her to get the fuck on and get a better girlfriend D) stop talking to her....lift weights, go to college and become highly successful and always surround yourself with hot chicks, always be cool and confident and ignore her....

Anonymous said...Best Blogger Tips

Wat if she bcm cmpltly silent n even dnt wan2 hear nythng regarding facts ?

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